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Be The Man Who Roars

Be The Man Who Roars

You stare at your newborn child, ghostly and smeared in your arms. Others assume your first thoughts are of wonder. Of joy. Of the marvel and miracle of new life. More likely, it was for you, as it was for me: Don’t fuck this up. And truly, how could it be otherwise: For you and […]

Why Dads Shouldn’t Think Of Themselves As A “Family Man”

Why Dads Shouldn’t Think Of Themselves As A “Family Man”

You aren’t a “family man.” You’re a man with a family. Here’s why that distinction matters: You were taught to think of family life as a promised land; a blissful state wherein, once won, you collapse into the arms of an all-loving, all-sustaining woman, carried along in a nirvana of procreation and whelp-tending… That once […]

Why You Should Procreate: An Open Letter To Every Smugly-Childless Man

Why You Should Procreate: An Open Letter To Every Smugly-Childless Man

There’s always one. Some smug prick at the dinner party who announces he will not be having children. Because, overpopulation. And “man as disease.” Not to mention the mess, and the work, and the annihilation of one’s personal life. The subtext being that having children is an “indulgence,” a surrender to base, unenlightened instinct, an […]

The Ugly Truth About Haters (How To Stop Waiting)

The Ugly Truth About Haters (How To Stop Waiting)

I need to show you something. It’s ugly and crass… but you need to see it. If you have things to create… if you wish to share your thoughts, ideas, products, services, artworks on a public stage… Then truly, this may well save your creative life. Dabbling at creation in private, when there is no […]

How To Change Your Game (Move Or Die Part 2)

How To Change Your Game (Move Or Die Part 2)

After last week’s Move Or Die message, a reader wrote me this: In other words… what are some practical examples of move or die in action? So, game on. If you know the life you want DEMANDS bold moves… If you know it’s move or die time but don’t know WHAT or HOW… Let’s get […]

Move Or Die

Move Or Die

Stay the course. Double down. Hold the line. Press on. Those are the words you console yourself with. The bandied sayings of the grimly perseverant male. And while they are, for some men, the right admonition… for most they merely excuse a particular form of dying. For here’s the problem: You love the slog. You […]